Sometimes I get caught up in how others create ritual, sometimes I forget that the rituals I create are for me.
Earlier this week was the autumnal equinox and I was seeing all sorts of posts in the week or so leading up to it about how to mark this time with art, dance, cards, fire, crystals and so on. I love the idea of marking this change of seasons, letting go of what has passed, inviting in the new. I had grand plans for rituals: I had the option of going to Heather Munro Pierce’s equinox ritual dance on the Saturday before; I planned to collage and create art; I planned to light candles, do a tarot card spread, burn some sage.
And one lesson that I have learned (especially in the past year) is that I need to be flexible, because the Universe does not care at all about my plans. I got sick and had to spend much of the week in bed recovering. I kind of forgot about my rituals and focused on healing. On Wednesday afternoon I had the thoughts that my chance to celebrate the equinox was passing, and that I wasn’t going to be able to do “a good ritual,” and that it was going to be over, and that I’ll have missed my chance. Aha! I recognized that my inner critic had jumped into the mix and he was judging whether or not I was doing things the “right” way. The critic was pushing that old belief that there is a right way and a wrong way to do everything, including my equinox ritual!
I took some deep breaths and thought about what these rituals are really about. For me, seasonal rituals help to remind myself of my connection to Spirit through Mother Earth. What’s the easiest way to do that? Touch the earth. I went out into the back yard and lay on the dry grass. I felt the sun on my face and the warm ground beneath me. I gave thanks for these gifts. My dog came out to join me and lay his head on my belly. I gave thanks for him as well and for all the people and beings I love in my life.
And then, the next day, when I had a bit more time and energy, I did a wonderful card spread for myself. And this weekend I will probably burn some sage and do some art with girlfriends. These were powerful lessons for me – to remember that small and simple things can be powerful rituals; and that there is no timetable for Spirit, everything unfolds just how it should.
New things are happening in my business. I’m getting ready to roll out my first e-course working with tarot and oracle cards. I’ve also created a special free gift for signing up for my e-course waitlist – Wild Adventures Through the Decks. This is a view into the wonderful tarot and oracle card decks I use with some tips for play and exploration of your own. This is a little teaser about it because it’s not quite ready yet. Soon though!!